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Hi friends,
Can I just say that I am truly honored by the outpouring of love and support I have received since my blog went “public” in May. I can’t believe that it went from just 26 followers to over 110. I want you all to know that you matter to me. That I consider you my friends and that I would NEVER do anything to hurt your feelings or make you feel less than what you are worth. You are wonderful, you are important, and you are the coolest for being my buddies!
Today I was made fun of for the first time in the blog world. To some it was just poking fun, to others it was rude and hurtful, and to another group it was completely acceptable. Let me tell you something. It is not acceptable. It is not ok to make fun of other people, not even when followed with bless your heart, or just kidding, or a disclaimer.
It is not ok to bully or treat others less than what they deserve. We are all here in this world together, why not lift others to higher ground? I don’t get it.
When I was younger I was made fun of a lot, quite harshly. In elementary school I was always called mean names, usually it had to do with my weight. Some of those names followed me throughout high school, and sometimes I still hear those mean names in the back of my head when I look in the mirror.
I did thin out a little in high school, thanks to playing sports. I tried to fit in with my teammates and I found a few dear friends there. But it wasn’t quite my niche. It’s as thought I’ve been searching for a place to finally fit in and I have finally found it.
It’s here. In the bloggy world as a crafty/diy blogger. And for a while it felt pretty safe. And it still does…mostly. Although I do admit, I am terrified to link up at parties now, just in case my project that I put my heart into will be made fun of again…
We are all here as bloggers offering something to the world. A little piece of us, of our hearts, and lets be honest, a lot of our time. So I would like to challenge you all to join me in what I would like to call “The Thumper Movement”! Will you join me in making sure this blog world stays a kind place? Will you join me in leaving other blogs better than what you found them and helping other bloggers feel good in their own skin?
I even made a cute button for whoever wants to join in! 
I guess what it all comes down to is that right here, right now I’m promising to not say anything harsh or mean or negative to or about another blogger on my little corner, and I will delete and ban all commenters who bring negativity in.
It’s that simple. People just need to be nice. Is that too much to ask?
Thank you for listening to me vent. I appreciate it.
Who’s with me?! You can grab my button towards the top of my sidebar!
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AMEN SISTER!!! I could not agree with you more about how we should all be here to uplift and encourage each other, not be unkind. I can't believe someone made fun of you! Every time I come to your blog I leave feeling uplifted and encouraged. I just want you to know that you are beautiful and amazing!!
Rachel, I Heart You! Thank you so much for your kind comment, you really made me feel like a million bucks. I'm so glad that you can come to my blog and feel uplifted and encouraged, that is why I blog. Thank you, thank you, thank you for coming by!
Oh Jessica. I saw that post (as you know) and it broke my heart. I felt like the crafty/bloggy world security was breached. As you mentioned, this is usually such a supportive safe place that it is jarring when suddenly it isn't. I focused in on the word bully in your post, because that is exactly what happens — a bully will make comments and be mean and then blame you for being 'too sensitive'. I like your Thumper button idea! Big hugs from me.
It did kind of feel that way didn't it? I really appreciate your comment and that you came by in support. You are so kind and courageous. Thank you so much for stopping by.
Dear Jessica,
You are correct! It is not nice. I am sorry to have known someone involved in that hurt.
Pamela
Http://pammiej2002.blogspot.com
Thank you for coming by Pamela, I'm really glad that we are blog buddies. You're so sweet.
You are so right, we all need to be kind to one another. I think the way you worded this is perfect! I know when I read the post yesterday that my first thought was, well, I'm not going to link to that party anymore. It was one of my favorite parties to link up to, but I'm not going to read either blog anymore. I'm sorry that happened to you! {hugs}
Amy @ The Happy Scraps
Thank you Amy. I appreciate your support and I had the same reaction, I definitely won't be linking up or reading.
I'm so glad that we're friends! I hope to see you again soon!
There is enough bad in the world all we need is good uplifting people! Sorry about what happened and thanks for taking the high road and rising above!
I agree 100%! Thank you so much for coming by Amber!
Hey Jessica! I feel the say way about the creative blogging community. I love the support here. Grabbed your button!
Sweet! Thanks for grabbing my button, I love this community and I'm so glad I've met so many incredible people because of it!
I feel the need to say that I was one of the people who didn't think much about Trevors post one way or another. That's not really true. I took it as humorous and not really mean. I really didn't think about it enough and I'm sorry. People like you and Adrianne have made me think harder about my views and the way that post has affected many people. I am sorry. I have posted your button on my blog and dedicated it to you, because you are so very right. Thank you for making me think a little harder and realize some things I hadn't considered.
That took a lot of courage to say, and I appreciate it. I know his post wasn't meant to be hurtful, and was meant to be funny, it just crossed the line. Thank you for your kind comment, for your support, for taking my button, but most of all for putting yourself out there. I'm honored to have you as a new follower and friend.
Hi Jess,
I am in total agreement with you. I do not have a blog but follow many for ideas, inspirations and laughs. I know what comment you are talking about and I DID NOT THINK IT WAS FUNNY! I hate people that say mean things under the pretense that “I was only kidding”. No they are not kidding! I was tempted to leave a comment on that site but I chose to comment on yours because it it more worthy. I don't know you personally but I admire you for your courage. Keep doing what you are doing because you inspire me to be a good person and perhaps try my hand at crafty projects too. Love, Marcie
Thank you Marcie, I appreciate your kindness and support. I'm honored that you came over and commented. I hope that you will try your hand at crafty projects! Sometimes it feels so nice to create something, ok a lot of the time it does!
Thank you so much for your comment.
Love it!! Grabbing a button now
You are AMAZING, and don't let anyone tell you different.
Thanks friend! You are AMAZING too!
Well said, Jessica.
I am all for the Thumper movement!
You are absolutely wonderful.
Thanks Erika, I truly appreciate it!
What a cool idea! When I figure out a pot for buttons, I will have to come back for it.
Thank you! I'd be honored!
By the way- check out all your featured buttons! That is because you are awesome!
Jessica- I too come to your blog because it always uplifts and inspires me. I think you're terrific and I hope you won't let something like that stifle your artistic spirit and make you feel like your contributions are any less than anyone else's. Keep on rockin' woman! <3 <3
Thank you so much Phoebe. I'm so glad that you can come and be uplifted and inspired. I was stifled for a bit, but I'm definitely recovering! Thank you so much for your support!
I loved your project! And I agree that that other post was is poor taste. I love your button and movement!! It really is so basic, isn't it? And we learned it way back in preschool … if it hurts feelings, it isn't funny. Keep crafting, Jessica, and I will keep following
Good for you! Yes, we all need to stand up and not let meanness and rudeness invade our awesome bloggy world. I too was bullied in school and I love this blogosphere where everyone supports each other and stands up for each other. I am grabbing your button and will support this because I believe good always triumphs evil and that bad behavior is unacceptable. And you are a smart and clever person who is so strong! This is my first time here and I love your work:) I am now following you in as many ways as I can:)
Hop on over to my place anytime and you will be respected and admired for the person you are:)
Evelyn
@ http://myturn-evelyn.blogspot.com/
You have an amazing day!!
Evelyn, thank you so much for coming by and sharing your support! I love this bloggy world for the support, encouragement, and inspiration that we provide for eachother!
Aren't bullies awful? You never really recover from them…
I am honored that you took my button! I am even more honored to have you as a new follower and friend! You are always welcome!
So… it wasn't ok for him to not intend to hurt your feelings, but it is ok and 'Thumper-like' for you to go out of your way to hurt him and his wife…
What a sweet post. I was out of town when everything went down, but I saw it while catching up today. I really admire your strength and I think that you will inspire women all over the blog world. xoxo
Thank you for your sweet comment, it really made my day!
What in the world is wrong with people?!?! Seriously! I'm so sorry to hear about this, and it warms my heart even more that you “stuck up for me” the other day on facebook. That girls comment honestly made me laugh, though it ruffled me for a minute, I just don't understand why people think they need to be unkind. I just think “they have something sad in their life that causes them to behave this way” and it makes me feel a bit better about my blessings. It's what i tell my kids about bullies, and I hope it sticks with them. Love ya, Jessica Joy!
~KristenJoy
I know right?! I was happy to stick up for you on facebook, that's what friends do!
…Even if you didn't really need it. I don't get why people need to be mean or rude either. I think it's wonderful that you have that attitude about it, I need to adopt that so I don't internalize it so much. I'm sure it will stick with your children since you are such an amazing example. You're incredible Kristen Joy! 
So I've been on vacay and am just catching up with all this! If I would have come upon this post without any other knowledge then I would have not know what was going on. Does that make sense? I think that it is admirable that you didn't call anyone out, you are just standing up for what's right even though you have been wronged. I didn't get what the big deal was at first and then I read your post. It's so much more than someone poking fun… I would have bawled if it were a project of mine. So much more time and effort goes into craft/food blogging than just opinion blogging. I'm so that you got hurt and I understand how being teased (especially about weight) has a strange lasting effect. Keep up the good work, we all like you even if some boy wasn't so nice.
That does make sense, I'm glad that it wasn't a dead giveaway. I definitely did not want to call anybody out or bring and harm or bad publicity to anybodies blog…deserved or not. I agree, a ton goes into a project, you put a part of yourself in your projects food or crafts so if somebody makes fun of the project, it's almost as though they are making fun of you…I dunno that could just be me and that I'm too sensitive. It's all becoming just a bad memory, so I'm thankful for that, and because of it I have met some incredible people!
Can I just say that I'm so happy that you came to visit me?! How was your vacation?
Jessica you are such a sweet Lady!! I am impressed by your strength and kindness. It's sad to me that we had to “meet” this way but I'm glad we did meet!! I'm excited to have found a new blogging buddy. I'll take a button, and keep linking to parties you have been featured the “right” way so many times it would be a shame to let him ruin that for you.
It is you who is sweet my friend! Thank you so much for your kind words. I really am glad that we met too! He definitely didn't ruin it too much. I still get nervous but it'll go away I'm sure!
Thank you so much for coming by!!
I just discover your blog. I dont know anything about the post write by the bully but I want to support you deeply. You can be proud of all your crafts and your blog, I love it. You can be proud of you because you stand up and respect yourself. N.B. I'm a french speaker so be gentle about my english.
I'm so glad that you came by. I am honored by your kindness and support AND I am impressed by your English! Your sweet comment made my day! I hope to see you again!